When the trainer needs to be trained

Well, not exactly trained, at least not physically, but yes. The trainer also needs to go to other trainers, doctors, physiotherapists, any kind of therapist to reach health. I always make the same mistake, I tend to overwork myself and this is the year when I want to end this stupid habit. This summer I don’t work as much as I usually do. I take care of my body. My mind. My life. I’m under big changes, I have big plans, I really want a change. And I don’t want to be a preacher, I want to be a doer. I started to make changes in my diet, in my workouts, in my way of thinking (not big changes, but some I really needed). I decided to do what I often preach about to my clients. I went to massages because I find them extremely important. I started to incorporate more stretches into my workout routines. I started to observe my body’s reactions to food, to exercise, to… well, to life. That’s why I went to a manual therapist when I recognised that I often have sore muscles only on one side of my body, which suggest some asymmetry in muscle engagement. I visited a clever man I often go when I have a problem that I cannot solve. He checked my body, he turned and tossed me and made a conclusion. I don’t have any big troubles with my body, I’m just extremely tense. That’s the same thing I felt. And that’s the same thing my masseur said.

listen to your body

I liked something my masseur suggested. While she was massaging me I said that I feel as if marbles were under my skin and she needed to make them disappear and I slightly panicked that it is impossible (or at least very painful). Then she suggested just jokingly that I should rather imagine them as ice-cream scoops this way I could just melt them away. After a minute we realised that it is really what I need to do. It makes everything much easier, we must imagine our problems as something that can disappear and not something that is almost impossible to do. I was just imagining my scoops melting while taking big deep breaths and it helped the tension melt away too.

Sometimes the universe sends many-many signs that we ignore. I cannot ignore the message anymore. Everybody tells this, every cell of my body tells this, so I really have to realise, I need some relaxation. I don’t have any other problems, just tense muscles around my hip. Yet. I need to focus on my mind, on the perfect way of relaxation.

Sooo, I decided to spend some time with myself, to do some meditation and relaxation. A few years ago I learnt the method of autogenic training but now, I don’t exactly know why, it’s not the best method for me. I can’t concentrate on it, I don’t feel the positive effect of it, so I need something else.

Until I find the perfect method, I will follow some meditations and relaxations from youtube. Whenever I find a nice one, I will post it here and you can also post your favourite guided meditations.

The first youtube meditation wasn’t very convincing, it was a bit autogenic-training-like plus I prefer meditations where I can lie on the mat instead of sitting, where I can close my eyes, but it’s a start. A very first “something”. Better ones are coming, I promise!

I also started to listen to relaxing music while doing the administrative tasks of my job. I don’t know if it helps, but at least I can listen to new music, no melodies.

Have you tried any guided meditations? Did you like them? Did they help you? Do you have any tips how one can find the most suitable meditations, ways of relaxation?

17 thoughts on “When the trainer needs to be trained

  1. Train the trainer, such a great post. I’ve had the same focus as you this summer. I’m taking the time I need to relax and refresh. I now go to a reflexologist, stretch more, shut-off from technology for hours at a time, and have become selfish with my time…. Essentially craving “me” time and scheduling it. Life is good – if we truly want to help others we must first help ourselves.

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    • I visited a reflexologist in the winter, he helped me a lot and now I’m thinking of going back. Shutting-off technology is the most difficult for me, I think… But I did it :) At the weekends I don’t work with it any more <3 Sometimes being a little bit selfish is just what we need :)

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  2. The timing of this couldn’t be better. I have been working myself into the dirt for 9 months and I noticed that I’ve started to crash, and fast! You inspired me to start journaling again. I forgot how comforting it is to get the thoughts out of my head and onto paper while listening to soothing music. Thank you for the inspiration!

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  3. Great post! I have also found it true that my body knows what is going on and gives me signals, but it is up to me to be receptive to them and give my body what it needs. Isn’t it amazing how stress can affect our bodies? I love what you massage therapist said about ice cream scoops and melting them away. It is a completely different mind-set. I am glad to hear you are giving your body and yourself, what you need. Thank you for this wonderful reminder!

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  4. For some reason water helps me to relax. I have to get into nature, get by some water, and it feels relaxing and healing and literally washes away stress. We have to take breaks and I also realized this a couple of months ago – was where you are and needed to relax. I went to some mountains by myself, hiked twice a day and got into streams alone. It felt great. I wish you much joy on your travels to relaxation!

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  5. One of my favorite guided meditations is the series that Deepak and Oprah offer occasionally in 21-day challenges. I have my go-to meditations that I always fall back on, but sometime just find a good guided meditation is like a breath of fresh air. This Saturday on Periscope (my newest addiction) there is a worldwide meditation scope that goes all day, it’s free, and there will be tons of different styles being shared by over 100 people, definitely check it out if you have time.
    I also completely agree that we get signs. It seems like those signs start as whispers and gradually get louder until we are open to listening to the message. I always try to be open enough to hear it before the “pain” comes with the message!

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    • Thanks for the tip, I will check those meditations!
      Periscope is a new thing for me, I read about it but never visited. I should try, I guess…

      And… I will quote in some of my posts what you wrote. This is this week’s favourite message:
      “It seems like those signs start as whispers and gradually get louder until we are open to listening to the message. I always try to be open enough to hear it before the ā€œpainā€ comes with the message!”
      Thanks for writing it <3

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  6. I can tell you’re such a hard worker! That’s great that you realized you need to take it slow this summer and focus on yourself, so that you can show others your best version of yourself. Also these sores and aches in our bodies are trying to tell us something. Since we did not pay attention to ourselves, they come in forms of body pain. I hope you discover your message, or you may already have!

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  7. To quote the Dalai Lama, “Sleep is the best meditation” explains why we prefer to meditate lying down versus sitting. We find listening to ourselves, truly listening, opens paths to greater relaxation and often leads to problem solving. We love your ice cream analogy. Thanks for a great post.

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  8. I don’t meditate like these in the videos, though they are very relaxing, but I do spend time a lot in prayer and studying the Bible. I do find when I’m not spending time doing that, my life seems to be very out of sorts.
    Great post!

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